Why New Year’s Resolutions Are The Perfect Frustration Mechanism

Why New Year’s resolutions don’t work – New Year’s Eve brutally honest answer. Is it motivation? Inspiration? Dedication?

The time of New Year’s resolutions has come! Spoiler alert: for me New Year’s resolutions never worked and I know for a fact that I’m not alone in this. What you need to make them work and why it’s not a failure if you failed sticking to your resolutions.

The word ‘resolution‘ literally means a firm decision to do or not to do something. The New Year seems like a perfect time to make such a decision – it’s the start of a new year, new time, a chance to start anew… Or is it? TIME magazine says that some of the most common and most commonly broken New Year’s resolutions are getting fit, losing weight, quitting smoking, dieting, saving money, etc. These are all great things and people resolve to accomplish them because they see value in it, however so often fail.

Why can’t we hold on to the promises we make to ourselves? Well, the answer is pretty simple: except for the calendar, nothing changes. In our mind, we remain same. Without big changes in our mind, we can’t really keep such promises, however good and valuable they might seem. In our sensible brain, we get the value we can obtain by sticking to the New Year’s resolutions, but in practice we often fail, because we lack the deep understanding and desire to do what we need to do.

The problem with New Year’s resolutions is that they are very often based on motivation – we get inspired and hope that new year will bring us more energy and perseverance to accomplish what we want. And – low and behold – motivation simply doesn’t work long-term. To accomplish something like weight loss (I mean healthy weight loss – gradual and no crash dieting), getting fit, spending more time with family, we need dedication and discipline, as I wrote in my post on how motivation is overrated.

So, to make a resolution work we need to be deeply passionate about it and disciplined enough. Another thing is lowering the pressure. New Year’s resolutions create a lot of pressure and cause a terrible feeling of failure in case if we fluctuate away from our decision. Don’t punish yourself for doing it – you are human and if you truly want something, you’ll get it for sure! Don’t focus on your mistakes, but focus on your achievements and your long-term goals – you’ll get there and nothing worthy ever comes easily.

If you tossed your resolutions completely and feel that it was a failure, remember that it wasn’t – it was experience, it was an effort, and you tried. All that matters is making an effort and trying your best. Cut yourself some slack and instead of focusing so much on the date when you resolve to do something, focus on your own needs. There’s no better day to commit to making your life better than today, and by today I mean literally any day you’re reading this on!

I wish you a Happy 2020! Let your dreams and aspirations come true! ❤️

My special thanks to everyone who reads this blog – stick around for awesome content in 2020 and beyond! ❤️



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Author: Alexandra @YouAndMeAndCupOfCoffee.com

Passionate researcher and writer. Coffee maniac. Pilates enthusiast. Makeup and skincare junkie. Occasionally - movie and book reviewer. Come join me on my quest!

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